Long before the overscheduled work-week and the isolating days of social media, women lived in cultures where they supported one another in all aspects of life. Together they raised and protected children, foraged for food, and helped each other through life’s daily challenges. As humans and technology evolved, women became more independent and the time previously dedicated to togetherness became less important – or so it seemed. In fact, science shows that women are physically hard-wired to connect with each other. In times of stress or need, women release oxytocin, a hormone that compels one to nurture and bond. These bonds result in positive mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing and restores women to their true nature.
Further evidence on the positive effects of meaningful relationships on physical and mental health is found in a 2018 survey conducted by Ipsos/Cigna. The survey, which included more than 20,000 Americans ages 18 years and over, found that people who engage in frequent in-person interactions are not as lonely, and report better physical and mental health than those who do not spend quality time with others. These findings reinforce the social nature of humans and the importance of having a community – or “tribe.”
But in today’s disconnected and demanding world, how does one find a tribe? Here are some suggestions on where to start
1. Look for people who share common interests and values
Seek out like-minded women who share your interests and help expand your universe. Take a class, join a wellness studio, attendee local meet-up groups, or start a club that focuses on a specific interest.
2. Identify your wants and needs
Ask yourself, “What personal need do I want to fulfill?” Be truthful in your answer, and leave self-doubt and judgment at the door. Follow your heart and the universe will attract compatible individuals.
3. Surround yourself with people that lift you up
Share your time with women that have your best interest at heart. Be part of a group that celebrates one another’s successes, but also helps each other weather the storms
4. Be yourself
It’s easy to confuse what we think we like, with what we actually like. Different people have different interests, values, or goals. Be authentic and stay true to your beliefs, and your vibe will attract your tribe.
5. Trust your instincts
Finding your tribe may take some time, and that’s ok. Your heart and mind will when know you’ve made that special connection and found your soul-sisters.
When women come together in a supportive environment to laugh, explore, and share genuine experiences, we create a tribe which strengthens our community and our world. So take a moment to step back, breathe, and connect. Your tribe is waiting for you.
Jennifer Gulbrand is a self-proclaimed Warrior Goddess and creator of SheBreathes Balance & Wellness Studio in Walpole, Mass., where all women are invited to breathe in balance, be inspired, and feel supported.