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If You Want to Be a Queen

If You Want to Be a Queen

“If you want to be a Queen, you have got to learn how to bow to other Queens.” -Guru Jagat

I absolutely love this quote by Guru Jagat, and I’ve been reflecting on it all week. It’s basically saying if you want to be recognized and celebrated, you gotta learn how to celebrate others too.

Here’s the thing: Jealousy, resentment, and attacking other women does no one any good, and quite frankly it’s super unhealthy.

If you want what someone else has, bow to her. Celebrate her. Throw her a big freakin’ cheer party. Know that her success doesn’t make you anything less, and those beautiful things are for you too.

On the other hand, I see a lot of women out there (myself included), shying away from sharing happy news or questioning whether or not they should talk about their successes in fear or hurting someone else’s feelings.

No, no, no!

Ladies, there is no need to dim your light to make others feel better. That’s doing a disservice to you and all your other sisters.

Instead shine your light so bright that it encourages others to shine bright too. And next time you see one of your soul sisters rocking it, celebrate her and know you too have so much to celebrate.

Get started by completing one of the action steps listed on my Spark Your Bliss affirmation card above.

Shine on, sisters!

The Power of Working in Groups

The Power of Working in Groups

“People in the same room understand and empathize with each other in a way that isn’t possible on the page or screen.” – Gloria Steinem, My Life on the Road

 

Here you are, reading a blog on the SheBreathes Balance and Wellness website. What brought you to this page?  How were you introduced to the SheBreathes Balance Studio and its powerful mission?

I am going to make an assumption that you were ready and actively searching for some kind of a group setting that would support you in your personal and/or professional goals.

I know I was!

I am a solo-preneur.  Most of the time, I am working out of my home office, a library, or a coffee shop. As with most of you who share this experience, I enjoy being in control, making all the decisions, and having flexibility and freedom in my schedule and in my checkbook.

But honestly, sometimes the solo work environment can get lonely, especially when challenges and obstacles arise. I am quite sure I am not alone in that often, I lose patience with myself, distractions and daydreams creep in, bringing self-doubt and defeat along with them.

When I read this part Jennifer’s mission statement

“Create a welcoming environment for women to gather, learn from, share with each other, grow individually and be inspired by the experience of women supporting other women in search of their own transformation.”

 

 

I knew that this space, and these women, would offer that sense of community, support and encouragement that would help me feelconnected to something bigger than myself.

 

Groups generate a motivational and inspirational energy that does NOT happen when you are on your own.

A group is a safe community where you can share your struggles, get different perspectives from your own, and feel a sense of accountability for your goals and tasks. There’s a give and take in a group setting that leaves us feeling like we helped as much as we needed help, and we knew as much as we learned.

When we leave, we actually feel better about ourselves and our capabilities, which fuels us to head back into our independent workspace and get stuff done.

Other Business Group Ideas:

You can join a networking group, a small business organization or take a class or workshop. These are great opportunities to take advantage of the power of numbers by making new contacts to stay in touch with outside of the event. Many people go to groups like this hoping to leave with long-term accountability partners, virtual team players, and professional referrals.

I invite you to explore the idea of a short-term group learning opportunity:

Authentic Action and Genuine Connection

A 3-part series designed for solo pros and small business owners who are ready to take control of their digital presence. We work in small collaborative groups to develop a sincere and successful online presence.

I am passionate about two things: helping my connections create their authentic online persona, and offering affordable programs Small groups give me the flexibility to do so.

Groups Now Forming: Learn More

Susan Finn is the Chief Connector at Susan Finn Online.

Her mission is to provide personal, authentic, and patient coaching and support strategies for the small business owner who is ready to present her value through her online presence.

Schedule a free consultation to learn more about how you can shine online.

Susan would like to give a shout out to Beth Knaus of That’s A Spade for helping her get her thoughts together for this blog.

Read more on this topic:

Strength in Numbers

Power of Working in Groups

Why Women Need Women-Only Networking Groups

Game Changer Interview: Elvia Roe

Game Changer Interview: Elvia Roe

Name of Your Business
AngelsTeach

How Does Your Work Enable You to Connect to and Fulfill Your Life Purpose/Passion?
The angels #1 job is to show us who we are and why we’re here. Their guidance is like a road map for knowing your life purpose.

My personal life purpose is be the angels’ spokeswoman in human form. I help women understand themselves more clearly and know why they are here in this body at this time on Planet Earth. My passion is ignited when I witness a woman open to her divine guidance and follow it. Not just in a moment here and there, but as a lifestyle.

As a teacher of angel communication, I show people (mostly women) how to identify their divine guidance, use it for their decision making and most importantly – learn how to trust it.

Who Is Your Ideal Client and Why?
I work with bold, curious women who know there is a force much bigger than us, but have struggled to harness its power. She is likely going through (or anticipating) some kind of major life change/transition point that entails big decision making. And she needs help with that. She is open and knows that the higher guidance from her angels can be of service, but she needs help tapping into that Source.

What Unique Offerings Do You Provide?
I do some private coaching, but my main gig is online training that includes Angel Communication 8-week Live Training and our more in-depth year-long Angel Communication Masters Certification Training. I also have a Living with the Angels membership community to support sensitive beings to feel connection and inspiration.

Who Was Your Role Model Growing Up? How Did That Person’s Actions Impact You?
My mother. She was a warrioress with so much courage and grace. She taught me how to be a strong woman and to insist on being myself, no matter what. And… she taught the importance of lipstick 😉

Favorite Place to Escape and Refuel?
The ocean…it doesn’t really matter where, although I love Block Island and the Rhode Island beaches. The Caribbean works too. Once an ocean girl, always an ocean girl.

Top 3 Ways to Treat Yourself to Self-Care?
My morning “stretch and pray” routine are key. Evening meditation is non-negotiable, even if something’s going on and I can only do 5 minutes. I also make it a priority to dress in alignment with my work, even if I’m working from home. I can’t say I do this 100% (thank you winter!), but it’s a work in progress that always rewards.

How Do You Express Yourself Creatively?
I love to write. If my emotions are swirling or I’m needing clarity – writing is the remedy.

Last Memorable Book You Read and Why?
The Dalai Lama’s Cat by David Michie. Well, I love cats. And I love spirituality and am especially intrigued by Buddhism. Put them together and it’s peanut butter jelly time!

Favorite Movie and Why?
There are many, but the one that comes on and I can’t turn off…Miss Congeniality. Yea, that’s true. Sandra Bullock makes me giggle, which I always find to be a good thing. I like when she snort laughs, because then I snort laugh. Plus, she kicks ass and gets the bad guys.

“Go to” Quote or Mantra that Grounds You?
It’s all good.

Accomplishment Are You Most Proud of?
My children. After that – AngelsTeach

Best Lesson Learned in Life So Far?
Surrender. It’s taken over 50 years to get back to where I was when I was 4.

Advice to Younger Self?
Be yourself – it’s safe and it’s what you’ll ultimately find is necessary. And always trust your intuition. If it feels loving, it will never steer you wrong.

What Do You Love Best About Yourself (physical trait or personality characteristic) and Why?
I am relentless cheering and supporting anyone working to express their true self and overcome traps of the ego. It doesn’t matter if it’s a student, client, friend, friend of a friend, friend of my daughter’s friend,… I’m on it. As a dear friend once said, “When I put my mind to something, I devote myself 200%.” And I like being tall.

Any Advice for Women Considering Joining the SheBreathes Collaborative?
In the spirit of Michael Jordan…Just Do It! This is a beautiful community, space and tribe of woman working to make the world a better place. How perfect and oh-so-needed is that!

Any Message You Have for Our Community?
I love you! That may sound trite, especially if we haven’t met, but I promise you I mean it. As we connect heart to heart and open to the love that is ever present, we grow, evolve and live a joyful, guided life. We heal, our families heal, our community heals and humanity heals. We all have warts of some sort and we ALL have so much goodness that lies within. Let the love we share amplify that goodness times infinity! And remember…your angels can help you do that!

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Game Changer Interview: Lisa Paige

Game Changer Interview: Lisa Paige

Name of Your Business
IN+SIGHT LEARNING

How Does Your Work Enable You to Connect to and Fulfill Your Life Purpose/Passion?
I am thrilled when I can help a student set achievable goals and meet or surpass them. Likewise, watching an entire family destress and handle the college application process more thoughtfully and joyously spreads wellness.

Who Is Your Ideal Client and Why?
Family with middle school and/or high school kids–test prep and admissions for private high school and college. Families who are open to suggestion and interested in LISTENING and being flexible with goal-setting.

What Unique Offerings Do You Provide?
Reducing stress for students, as in test anxiety, family relationships surrounding the academic experience, seminars on journaling to reduce anxiety and approaching the testing and admissions process consciously and holistically.

Who Was Your Role Model Growing Up? How Did That Person’s Actions Impact You?
Director of Science at Waltham High School. His door was always open and he encouraged students to discover and explore their passions and follow them.

Favorite Place to Escape and Refuel?
The Cape or Germany; barring that, a yoga class or coffee shop

Top 3 Ways to Treat Yourself to Self-Care?
Yoga, massage, good food

How Do You Express Yourself Creatively?
I write, play the piano, and sing in the shower.

Last Memorable Book You Read and Why?
The Upanishads, translated by Easwaran — beautiful, helped expand my notion of consciousness and the real

Favorite Movie and Why?
Love Actually, because it’s funny, heartbreaking, and uplifting

“Go to” Quote or Mantra that Grounds You?
Be the change you want to see in the world.

Accomplishment Are You Most Proud of?
There are three: Graduating from Harvard, completing my PhD, and raising three wonderful children. The last is the best.

Best Lesson Learned in Life So Far?
Think before you speak

Advice to Younger Self?
Don’t drink

What Do You Love Best About Yourself (physical trait or personality characteristic) and Why?
I’m compassionate

Any Advice for Women Considering Joining the SheBreathes Collaborative?
You will find a wonderful group of women who are supportive!

Any Message You Have for Our Community?
Thank you for being there!

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A free first session of tutoring or test prep. Visit Lisa’s website by clicking here to contact her for the offer.
Game Changer Interview: Maria Salomão-Schmidt

Game Changer Interview: Maria Salomão-Schmidt

Name of Your Business
Coach Me Maria

How Does Your Work Enable You to Connect to and Fulfill Your Life Purpose/Passion?
After many years of being jill of all trades and a master of none, I’ve finally hit the ignition point where I now see that my life was building for exactly this point. It did not make sense before because my life’s work is about being a visionary in the right now. When I coach people now it feels like flying! It’s one of the most amazing feelings I’ve ever had!

Who Is Your Ideal Client and Why?
My ideal client is that person who has noticed a few things about life that don’t make sense. They see that pretty much no matter what they do, life is super challenging. Those who think, “well, that’s the way life is,” those who are willing to settle, they are not ideal clients. My idea client is the person who wants to get back into their life’s flow. They must be willing to make the financial and time commitment it takes to be coachable.

What Unique Offerings Do You Provide?
Glad you asked… Most see me as a coach but what I am is a TOOL… MAKER, FINDER and DISTRIBUTOR. My life’s work is to teach people what tools will help them connect to their life’s work! It is simply what I was born to do… and it feels sooooo good to do it! I also authored a book that hit Amazon’s Top 100 Books on Happiness. It is an incredible tool that is available in audio book, paperback, ebook and larger print versions.

Who Was Your Role Model Growing Up? How Did That Person’s Actions Impact You?
My role model growing up was a woman who worked in a bookstore. She was so very independent, elegant, creative, authentic. I had never seen someone be so herself! It opened up a whole new entire world of what was possible!

Favorite Place to Escape and Refuel?
PORTUGAL!

Top 3 Ways to Treat Yourself to Self-Care?

  • Get Back to Basics: The Giant Three… Add more sleep, water, meditation!
  • Re-Start The “Coach Me Maria” 33/66/99 Day Program… It’s one of the tools I’ve been working on over the last few years. It’s absolutely wonderful for getting life back on track on all levels.
  • Go to a Professional for Body/Energy Work…Massage, Reiki, Full-Spectrum Healing, Chakra Balancing, Yoga, Life Coaching, Accupuncture… anything that helps with the energy-meat body connection. Feels great and you get to help create abundance for another person who is following their dreams. Fully feeding the cycle of abundance and love on our planet.

How Do You Express Yourself Creatively?
Writing, Drawing, Doodling and Cooking

Last Memorable Book You Read and Why?
Capital Gaines: Smart Things I Learned Doing Stupid Stuff. I was surprised that I absolutely loved it! It took my surprise how much I learned reading it.

Favorite Movie and Why?
You know this is an impossible question to answer, right? 😉 The first movie that came to mind was THE MATRIX TRILOGY… It is an incredibly inspirational and timely movie for what we humans are going through right now.

“Go to” Quote or Mantra that Grounds You?
“Whatever you focus on controls your life.” Maria Salomão-Schmidt – I know it’s my quote but I really do use it over and over again to ground me when I feel off.

Accomplishment Are You Most Proud of?
I’m most proud of my book, Finally FULL of Yourself: Unlocking Your Spiritual DNA because it took 10 years to write. During that time I was channeling/working out something I knew would help a lot of people. As a mom of five, wife, business owner… there were countless days I got up at 4am or went to bed late so I’d have time to write. I did this even when people in my own family put me down. I did it even when I put myself down for not finishing it sooner. I never gave up. When I hear from people how much the book has helped them break painful, useless patterns… it just melts my heart with LOVE! May reading this inspire you to never give up on what’s calling you.

Best Lesson Learned in Life So Far?
Let go.

Advice to Younger Self?
Don’t spend so much time trying to please people… especially boys. Spend tons of time exploring your passions and traveling.

What Do You Love Best About Yourself (physical trait or personality characteristic) and Why?
I love my smile and my ability to give the most awesome hugs!

Any Advice for Women Considering Joining the SheBreathes Collaborative?
Just do it.

Any Message You Have for Our Community?
The key word here is community. It takes a village. Our community only works when we show up. Connect with at least three new SheBreathes members per month. Have a tea date. Go to a movie together. Take a class at SheBreathes together. Go for a walk together… be as creative as you want with your SheBreathes “dates.” 😉 Also, when you meet, do one thing to help their business move forward and ask the same of them.

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